How Do I Love Thee? Time and Place Will
Tell
Time and Place as Tools to Convey Love in Poetry
The feeling of love, as a fundamental human emotion often associated
with complexities in language, has been exploited in poetry over
the ages. Many love poems can be reduced to cliché romantic
verse employing relentless metaphors and symbolism such as roses
and hearts. How then is it possible, for a poet to successfully
manipulate language to describe love, passion that our species revolves
around, in an original and effective way? A poet can profess his
notions of love by specifying the details surrounding his relationship,
such as the time and place, to achieve a unique depiction of love
that is as timeless as the feeling itself.
In Philip Metres’ “Ashberries: Letters”, the
poet is writing from Russia to his wife in the United States. Metres
uses the idea of time in this poem as a device to demonstrate that
physical distance can actually bring two people closer together,
furthering their characteristic of being in love. The poet voices
his frustrations with instantaneous communication methods, like
telephones which cause the distance to seem empty and cold, and
praises older forms of communicating, like letters, which can warm
distance with their tangibility and timelessness. The poem parallels
the relationship of the lovers to the maturation of Ashberries,
red berries that ripen with every frost, in that it grows sweeter
over time.
Metres gracefully uses place as a backdrop. Against this backdrop,
he dissects his urges to love and picks apart his feelings about
his wives’ distance by detailing the circumstances of his
surroundings. In so meticulously painting the Ashberries and describing
their evolution throughout his stay in Russia, Metres creates vivid
images that enhance the depiction of his relationship and notions
of love. Along with the physical description of the Ashberries come
descriptions of seasons, of places in Russia where they grow, and
of people that pick the berries with him; these images are skillfully
manipulated to support the poet’s more abstract ideas of his
feelings towards his wife. “My teacher/ says they sweeten
with frost, each snow/ a sugar.” This metaphor is much more
effective than if Metres were to simply state, “I love you
more and more every day.”
The poet describes the distance separating him from his lover as
something helping to ripen their relationship, as the seasons do
the berries. He is saying that the lovers gain new knowledge and
compassion towards one another with every letter, in ways that are
discouraged by the informality of telephone communication, and can
even be lost in the hustle of everyday life. “When the phone
at last connects to you, I hear/ only my own voice, crackle of the
line.” Letters hold a clear sense of promise to their recipient,
they can be reread countless times, are a concrete reassurance of
communication. “They bear across/ this land, where I find
myself at a loss—/ each word a wintering seed.” Metres
is using the importance of letters as a method to convey the importance
of patience and sincerity in long distance relationships, again
dissecting a specific piece of his relationship through the study
of the effects of time.
“Frontis Nulla Fides,” by Sharon Olds, is another poem
that explores a focused angle of love through the consideration
and depictions of time and place. In this poem, Olds is describing
her husband, who the reader can infer is deceased, as though he
was a precious landscape. “I knew and did not/ know his brain,
and its woody mountain/ casing…I had my favourite pores on
its skin,/and the chaos, multiplicity and/ generousness of them
was like/ the massy stars over the desert.” By using this
complex description of a landscape, Olds adds many layers to her
love of her husband, far more than if she were to say, “I
loved and knew every detail of his body.” By incorporating
a description of place, Olds is able to accentuate in detail not
only her love to her husband but also dissect her knowledge of his
body, the part of him she is most familiar with.
This poem is distanced from its subject, as though the poet has
been long removed from her husband, which is accentuated by the
presence of time throughout the poem. By incorporating the time
into her descriptions of love, Olds makes it clear that that the
relationship has too stages. The first being the initial period
of love, when the husband was alive and the two were happily married,
and the second being the reflection on that period, when Olds is
questioning the degree to which the relationship was truly genuine.
She describes what she remembers of her husband’s body in
the utmost detail, but allows the reader to see that time has helped
her question her knowledge about what truly functioned in his head.
Like a landscape, she is unsure whether she truly understood what
went on beneath the surface. “Now I can see that his eyes/
were sometimes hopeless and furious,/ but as I saw them—and
he seemed to feel them—/ as lakes, one could sound them and
receive no sense/ of their bounds or beds.” Without the presence
of time, the distinction between the stages would be difficult to
make.
Olds’ poem, like Metres’ denies the universal instantaneous
nature of love poetry. Neither of these poems is romantic, in its
immediate sense. Each poem explores love as a slow, undying feeling
that is suspended over a long period of time. This enables each
poet to go beneath the surface of love poems, ones that usually
boil down to lust-filled descriptions of a partner. By focusing
on the act of staying in love rather than falling in love, each
poet has delved far from the cliché of love poetry. It is
uncommon for someone to write about love from the perspective of
staying in love over time and distance, or staying in love through
death.
Both Olds and Metres use the word love once in their poems. Olds,
in the clarification of the literary level to her poem, “I
feel that ignorant love gave me/ a life.” Metres, in directly
addressing his wife, “Love, I live for the letters/ I must
wait to open.” Neither poet says directly to their spouse,
“I love you,” yet the idea of each poem as a love poem
in some form is entirely clear. These poems are therefore successful
as love poems through the exploration of the poet’s love,
as it exists in one moment in time and place. By balancing love
between the details of the abstract idea of time and the immediate
idea of place, the poets are able to craft poems that explore the
subtleties of love and relationships. The complexity of love as
an emotion is dissected, and the clichés of love poetry,
avenged.
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