“Wake up Ben! you’re just as brown as the rest of us.”
This quote struck out to me because I think so many minorities deal with this while living in America. Moreover, as we have seen during fall quarter and so far in this quarter, Asian American’s, more specifically Japanese American’s struggled with embracing both of their identities of being both Japanese and American. This is clear throughout the film with Ben as well, he is Filipino and also American, however, he tries to hide his Filipino culture as much as possible. It’s important to never forget your roots and where you came from which is what his older sister was trying to help him see.
The importance of family is another key aspect throughout the film that Ben finally begins to realize towards the end of the film. We see this at his sister’s party and how his white friends were so interested in his culture. I think he is surprised about how interested they are and realizes that family is very important. This also reminds me of last quarter with Japanese Americans always being able to count on their family and look to family in crucial times of need. So far we have seen that family is extremely important in the Asian culture. In addition, I think for all minorities, we see how truly important it is that we hold our family sacred to our hearts because of everything minorities have been through. That is one thing we have in common. We can always look to our families for support and as a remembrance of our roots. Because during the times that some experience the challenges in dealing with identity issues, when white America pulls those away from their roots, it is important to always look back to our family as a reminder of where we are from.
There is also a connection in Gran Torino with family. We see how Walt learns the importance of family through another family that is not even his and that is also an Asian family. Although Walt has pre judgments because of his experience in the Korean war, as he starts to learn more about Thao’s family, he begins to appreciate his own family much more. For instance, he tries to call his son and reconnect with him. Moreover, at the end of the movie he sacrifices his life for Thao and his family.
One thing that caught my attention right from the beginning of the film The Debut was that I noticed that three of the films we have watched so far have all had the main character’s name the same of Ben. I wondered why the name Ben is so popularly used for Asian American actors.
From the beginning of the film, it is clear that Ben is ashamed of his Filipino family and attempts to fit in with white/western American culture as much as possible. For instance, he hangs out with his two white friends as much as possible and at the beginning he is embarrassed and does not want to let them in his home. Throughout the film, we see that he continues to struggle with this because he is constantly trying to avoid spending time with his family and is always fighting with his father and/or having issues with his sister. Moreover, Ben struggles because he is resisting what his family expects from him because his dream is to go to school for art yet his father pushes him along with other members to go to medical school and to be a doctor. It’s obvious that Ben does not understand why his father calls him spoiled throughout the movie because he does not realize that his father made a sacrifice of his dreams to be the father that he needed to be and take care of more important responsibilities such as raising his family.
The generation gap between Ben and his parents, mainly his father, demonstrates that he has a difficult time accepting his family and his identity because he does not know his native language very well unlike all his other family members. As he meets other Filipino’s he starts to realize he needs to become more in touch with his roots. I do believe his white friends helped him to be able to see this as well as his mother and his sister and in the end, he understands where his father is coming from. Furthermore, when he deals with Gusto in the fight and how he is treated by him because they believe he is a sell out and they call him a “coconut” basically implying that he’s brown on the outside but white in the inside. This generation gap reminded me of last quarter’s program when we discussed the issues that Japanese American Issei and Nisei experienced. I saw some similarities with the two races of Japanese and Filipino’s experiencing similar issues.
Overall, I really enjoyed the movie and was able to draw many different connections and relate them to issues discussed in previous programs as well as being able to make personal connections. I also found it interesting to be able to see the Asian American experience through the lens of a Filipino American.