Submitted by Sue-Marie on Wed, 02/20/2008 - 11:24am.
John, I applaud you for choosing a male friend with whom to do this exercise. I notice in my own life, and certainly in the psych literature, how our culture does not support men openly expressing their gratitude for one another. Sometimes I hear men speak and I can't even interpret what they are saying--like when one guy I know said to his buddy, "Get your 40?" "Yep!" I asked what they were talking about, and the first guy was asking if his friend managed to work 40 hours that week, since he is a private paint contractor. They didn't look at each other, and only spoke about work in this abbreviated "manspeak."
I have to say, it warms my heart whenever men connect honestly and compassionately. It makes me feel hopeful for the future of the planet!
John, I applaud you for choosing a male friend with whom to do this exercise. I notice in my own life, and certainly in the psych literature, how our culture does not support men openly expressing their gratitude for one another. Sometimes I hear men speak and I can't even interpret what they are saying--like when one guy I know said to his buddy, "Get your 40?" "Yep!" I asked what they were talking about, and the first guy was asking if his friend managed to work 40 hours that week, since he is a private paint contractor. They didn't look at each other, and only spoke about work in this abbreviated "manspeak."
I have to say, it warms my heart whenever men connect honestly and compassionately. It makes me feel hopeful for the future of the planet!